Overcome Overwhelm and get into FLOW!
You’re feeling overwhelmed!
I get it, believe me!
It happens to the best of us.
Sometimes, there’s something else going on. Is overwhelm a pattern?
Have a little self-sabotage going on, maybe?
We will address a few of the root causes and what you can do about it right now!
Tip #1 – Ditch the drudgery and get into FLOW!
Flow is what happens when you are working on something that lights you up.
Flow happens when you are completely aligned, body, mind and soul.
Flow happens when you lose time and you feel like whatever you’re doing is imbued with some kind of magic you can’t quite explain.
When you’re in the flow, overwhelm is the last thing on your mind.
So, how do we get into flow?
It’s a process, but here are a few things that will get you started down the path.
- Meditate – at least 15 minutes a day to quiet the mind
- Follow Intuition – listen more and more to the wisdom of your body and your feelings
- Know Your Why – what is your purpose
- Be Easy With Yourself – no harsh judgment or criticism of self – be kind
- Stay In Your Zone of Genius – as much as humanly possible
While you’re working on cultivating flow states, here are a few other tips to try.
Tip #2 – Sometimes you really do have too much on your plate.
Ask yourself: Is there really enough time in my day to actually accomplish everything on my list?
If not, then you need to make some adjustments.
Experiment with different time management and organization solutions. I’m not going to dig deep into this topic because there are a million ideas out there for time management. I will just leave you with a couple of things to think about to get you started.
- Prioritize. What’s really important? If you’re in business, what are your revenue producing activities? What things can only you do? Can you delegate it? Hire someone else to do it? Barter with someone else? Do it more efficiently in some way, like batching activities? Can you put it off until next month or quarter? Ask yourself the tough questions.
- Let something go! I know you don’t want to hear this one, but hear me out! Clients ask me all the time how to juggle better and get more done in less time. And it’s a viable option, up to a point. BUT YOU ARE HUMAN. And if you’re doing too much over time you get depleted, irritable, sick, impatient, inefficient. You aren’t doing yourself or anyone around you any favors. Take care of yourself and make the decision to let something go.
Tip #3- Reframe Overwhelm
Decide to view occasionally feeling overwhelmed as a normal part of what’s going to happen when you are doing big things in life!
We have busy lives. Some of us are building families, others building empires, some both!
You’re accomplishing lots, so just accept that overwhelm is part of the journey.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong.
We simply need to recognize, “oh, this is overwhelm. This is going to happen from time to time, because I’m doing big things.” And allow yourself to actually feel it. Just stop for a moment and feel it.
If we do this one thing, it can go a long way to solve our problem.
Just expect to feel it as part of your journey.
Can you feel the relief already?
Good. If not, keep reading.
Tip #4 – Be aware how the mind works.
The mind was designed to be efficient and to connect like things together. So, if you think of one thing you need to do, you’re likely to soon come up with another and then a few more. Once you get started, it likes to keep going and build momentum. This is what can leave you feeling overwhelmed.
Go back to basics. Recognize the feeling and be willing to feel it, as we discussed in the first tip.
Then, do a brain dump and make sure you have written or typed or collected ALL your to-do’s in one place. Just dump them on a piece of paper or in your computer program or document. Get them all out of your head and onto the paper.
Then, pick an easy one and start there. Pick one that you actually want to do and start there. Many say, start with your least favorite, but I think that’s bullshit for someone who has an issue with overwhelm. What you need is to start a little positive momentum. Do one little thing and pat yourself on the back.
If any items on your list are big, break them down to baby steps. Break them down to 10 minute increments, if it helps, and give yourself a big check mark for each one you accomplish.
Tip #5 – When Overwhelm is a Habit
What if overwhelm is more than an occasional occurrence?
What if, for you, it is a frequent foe, or even a habitual way of being?
That’s when we dig a little deeper.
Ask yourself: What’s the payoff?
We ALWAYS do what we do for very good reasons. So if you’re seeing a pattern repeat itself again, and again, and again, that’s a great thing to do is ask, “What is the benefit of this behavior?”
There is always a payoff that you may or may not realize is driving the behavior.
Two common stories I have heard go something like this:
“If I’m overwhelmed, then I stop myself before I get started. I don’t finish, therefore I don’t try and fail which would be even worse.”
“I have a belief that I’m not good enough. When I get overwhelmed and don’t go after what I want, I don’t achieve my goals and I confirm the belief that – see? I’m not good enough.”
Anyone else relating to any of this at all?
Can I get a witness?
Once you spot your story, decide whether or not you want to keep telling it or try something new.
If you’re determined to play full out as the most authentic and powerful version of yourself, then this is the kind of work you’ll be doing.
We question our assumptions and beliefs and thoughts.
We get to decide if we want to continue behaviors that are no longer serving us.
Tip #6 – Get Some Support
It takes a lot of practice, done consistently over time, to spot these habitual, even compulsive ways of being and do something new!
You don’t have to do it all by yourself.
Find an accountability/support partner!
Find a group on Facebook where you can bond with others on the same journey! Not a group where everyone complains about similar problems together, a group where women support each other and lift each other up.