If you’re not a Star Wars fan, you can skip this one. And if you are, then stick with me for a minute.
Most life coaches would probably quote Yoda, if they were to write a blog post on life lessons from Star Wars.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Yoda. I mean, I’m a huge fan from way back and he’s still dropping wisdom in the latest installment of the franchise The Last Jedi.
I could probably write a whole book on just one of his lines, like…
“The greatest teacher, failure is.”
It’s a doozy, right? He’s so amazing! I don’t even have words to express how much I love Yoda. So, don’t even get me started.
Back to Kylo.
He’s a mess, and nowhere near ascended Jedi master status like Yoda, but there is some wisdom we can use from his words.
“Let the past die. Kill it, if you have to. That’s the only way to become what you are meant to be.”
Kylo is struggling to find himself. He is figuring out who he truly is. He is on a journey of self discovery. I know he’s a bad guy and his methods aren’t the path any of us would choose, you know, evil, dark side, murder, etc., but bare with me here.
On this journey, he’s decided he needs to cut ties from his past, so he can grow beyond it and become who he believes he is meant to be.
Now, this is an idea I can support.
I love it for three reasons.
First, he has a deep desire to become who he is meant to be. I can definitely relate to this. I have this same desire and I work with women who feel the same way. In some way, Kylo is a kindred spirit. He knows he’s meant for more than he’s been living, and there’s a good chance you do too, if you’re reading this. I admire his desire and I hope he is able to find and express the truth of his authentic self. This is what I want for anyone who seeks this kind of knowledge. I, for one, am ready to be who I came here to be.
Second, he is so determined, clear and powerful in his will. I tend to be a “go with the flow” kind of person, for the most part, and I truly admire this trait of his. He is very clear on what he wants and he is determined to do what it takes to achieve his goal. I can definitely borrow a little bit of this for my own life. And I think I will. As I look ahead and set goals and intentions for what I want, I’m doing it with a renewed sense of clarity and power. I am more determined than ever to create the life I deserve, the life I know I came here to live.
Third, he understands that to get to the future he knows he’s meant for, he needs to let go of the past that is holding him back. He’s making the decision to cut out the things (and people) that don’t support his new ways of being. This is a big one, and it’s important for all of us. It sounds harsh, and, again, his methods are a bit over the top (haha), but the concept is still valid. We all have friends (and maybe relatives) who don’t get it. They think we’re dreamers or non-conformers or odd or misguided or whatever it is they think. Many times, we let it get us down. We let it stop us from doing what we know we are called to do. Well, I say “no more.”
As we all go through the process of becoming who we are meant to be and living the lives we deserve to live, let us nurture the seeker inside of us who knows we are meant for more. May we commit to our journey with a renewed sense of determination and power. And let’s decide to let go of everything that does not support our process of becoming the people we came here to be.
Just like the Star Wars world needs the light and the dark, the hero and the villain, our world needs the gifts each of us came here to share. We are all working together in the big picture, even if we can’t see it!